Stop chasing beauty, and start chasing this instead.
"This is not about everybody being beautiful. Or, being beautiful at any size. This is certainly true, but this goes past beauty. Fuck beauty.
When are you going to be done chasing beauty instead of chasing a beautiful life? You can be happy and in love and free and live fully without being beautiful. You can. You can carve out your corner of the world and surround yourself with people that love you and you can do work that you are passionate about and you can be smart and capable and you can be a parent and you can find someone that sees your soul reflected off your face and body and you can have all of this while not possessing beauty.
Because, being beautiful is a trait like any other trait. Smart. Funny. Interesting. Serious. Beautiful. Weird. Traits. Facets of who you are, not the whole of who you are.
I know you know this. And, I know it’s hard to put into practice, but all I can say is that beauty standards will not change at the rate in which you need them to. And, you have to fight like hell to believe in yourself and to be able to look in the mirror and not carry around the weight of your self-loathing for the rest of the day or week or month. You have to find a way through all that. You cannot get buried under the idea that beauty is all that matters. This is your only life and if you spend it obsessed with how you look to a degree that you do not fully live your life, it will be the one thing you will truly regret during your last days.
Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to unapologetically love the fuck out of who you are and what you look like."
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8 January 2021 | Petaling Jaya, Malaysia
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