The Geography of Kindness and Fear
Most people, regardless of their nationality and backgrounds, are good and kind by nature when they are not in fear.
The fear of God
The fear of LGBT
The fear of other beliefs and races
The fear of their own desires and wants
The fear of losing face
The fear of not being good enough
The fear of being taken advantage of
The fear of losing out
The fear of not having enough
The fear of being found out
The fear of not being admired
The fear of being seen as weak
The fear of not being accepted
The fear of being laughed at
The fear of being judged
The fear of being criticised
The fear of being wrong
The fear of making mistakes
The fear of the unknown
The fear of the unexpected
The fear of the new
The fear of not being loved
The fear of losing love
The fear of being alone
I see actions and choices driven by fear, and actions and choices that come naturally in the absence of fear.
So when someone acts like a dick, when they judge, when they are callous with and they look down on others, they are trying to hide their fears and mask the insecurity that comes with it.
Yeah. It’s like an open book. So many fears, and only one life. How lah like that.
I have been meeting mine one by one, checking off a bloody long list slowly. Giving myself the time to say to each of them hi, let’s sit down and talk, shall we? Some are stubborn and they put up a fight, they are ingrained and refuse to show their true faces, but most are just mental projections on thin curtains of mist. Looking real and alive only because the curtain moves. Like scarecrows along the perimeters of our minds.
It became clear too that fear and danger are two very different things. Being fearless isn’t being stupid, reckless, unprepared or not thinking of possible consequences. Danger is real, but fear is created (some by ourselves and some by others, sometimes intentionally) and only real when we choose to believe it is.
Chiang Mai, Thailand.